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Gwen

Using the Internet for Research: Don’t Believe Everything You Read!

Using the internet for research

The internet has undoubtedly been a boon for students and educators, giving students access to high-quality materials that were previously sequestered away in hard-to-access archives or university libraries. There’s now a wealth of information available at most peoples’ fingertips, and as internet access becomes cheaper and computers more mainstream yet more people are going to join the information superhighway. But as we create and digitise so much information—in 2006 alone humanity created 161 exabytes of data, equal to 161 million terabyte desktop hard-disks, or three million times the amount of information contained in all of the books ever written—it becomes more and more important to critically evaluate the information we’re presented with. Anyone can publish a website or blog now, so it’s more important than ever to be sceptical about the “truths” we’re presented with, especially if we’re using that information to make financial or life decisions.

With that in mind, here are some tips to help make sure you’re only getting the best, most reliable information when you’re surfing the web:

  • Cross-reference: Before believing a claim, cross-reference it against a number of other sites to see if they all say the same or similar things. If one site claims that ylang-ylang essential oil is hazardous to health, search for more information before binning your bottles of ylang-ylang. (As it turns out, ylang-ylang is one of the safest known essential oils, although it can become a sensitiser in large quantities.)
  • Do background research: In the ideal world of Socratic debate, a good argument is a good argument no matter who says it, and a fact is a fact no matter where you read it. Unfortunately, there’s just too much information out there these days for everyone to rigorously evaluate an argument or fact on its own terms, so doing a little bit of background research is essential. Who’s making the claim? What is their background? Do they have any credentials in the field? Where’s the information being published? Is it a reputable source? These are the kind of questions that can save you a great deal of time, as long as you keep a critical mind.
  • Ask who benefits: This one’s been around since the ancient Romans, but “cui bono?” is still a great question to ask if you’re not sure whether or not to trust a piece of information. Who would benefit from you believing this is true? If you discover that the person who wrote the article about açaí berries curing diabetes just happens to sell açaí berries on his personal website, you might want to take that information with a grain of salt. (As it turns out, there’s no evidence that açaí berries cure diabetes, but they are a generally healthy food source.)

You don’t want to become a highly sceptical or overly critical thinker, for that way lies intellectual fossilisation. At the same time, it’s best to keep your mind open, but not so open that your brains fall out!

Fertility hypnotherapy: Stacey’s story

A client of mine, Stacey, recently wrote to me to share her story. It was so beautiful I felt I had to share it with all of my blog’s readers. Here’s the original letter:

Dear Gwen,

As you know, getting pregnant has been a long journey for my husband and me. After 18 months of trying to get pregnant the usual way, we (my husband Kroy and I) bravely went off to the fertility clinic. Call me naïve, but I assumed that if you created an embryo from an egg and a sperm cell and implanted that embryo in the right spot then you were pretty well assured of producing a baby. Apparently not. All explorations into the cause of our infertility provided no answers—Kroy’s “boys” were healthy and numerous, and they were collecting a good number of high-quality eggs from me. After 5 years of trying IVF and still no babies it was all getting a little difficult to deal with. The well-intentioned comments from friends—”Just relax, it will happen,” “It’ll happen when you least expect it,” “I know someone who did IVF for four years then stopped and got pregnant naturally a month later,” et cetera et cetera—were really starting to wear thin. Both Kroy and I were getting depressed about it. We discussed “the baby thing” with about as much enthusiasm as we discussed preparing our taxes. I had such a desire for a baby but I no longer even wanted to think about having one. Seeing a pregnant woman would make me jealous and seeing a woman with more than one child would make me angry!

I was heading towards 40, I’d been on the emotional rollercoaster for five years, and Kroy was starting to wonder what had happened to the woman he’d married. I knew that I couldn’t do this any more, that this would be my last attempt—I would do everything possible to be successful, because I couldn’t keep trying after my next birthday. I went on a detox diet, had regular acupuncture, took time off work—and I found you.

The idea of hypnosis, and more specifically fertility hypnotherapy, was very foreign to me. I cautiously discussed the idea with my fertility specialist, and he was surprisingly supportive of the idea. Kroy thought it was a stupid idea, but agreed that it couldn’t hurt to try it. When I went to my first session I found you, your staff, and the clinic’s environment were very friendly and professional. I was exhausted when I stepped through the door but drove home feeling alert and alive, and the feeling continued throughout the next day. As the weeks went on and our sessions continued, my whole attitude towards getting pregnant and becoming a mother changed. My jealousy and anger towards other mothers was changing into expectation and excitement about my own future. My anxiety was turning into trust. Instead of asking “What is wrong with me?”, I let my mind and body work together. My “inner helper” began to align, adjust, and heal me. I stopped feeling stupid for having tried for so long and started to genuinely believe I would have a child. I could see it and feel it, all I needed to do was wait for it to happen—and it did.

I am now 35 weeks pregnant and Kroy and I are so in love with this little baby inside me. Thank you, Gwen, for the most significant role you have played in helping us achieve this miracle. I would wholeheartedly recommend your services to anyone else looking for the same success. I am very much looking forward to introducing you to this new little being.

All my love and thanks,

— Stacey.

Stacey recently gave birth to her beautiful little son, William. She sent me these beautiful photos to share with everybody. Isn’t he adorable?

Baby William (one of four)

Baby William (three of four)

Baby William (four of four)

From My Father …

Here’s a little wisdom from my late (and dearly-missed) father:

“If only we could be born with the wisdom that we collect in a lifetime—how different life would be!” — Ronald Albert Elson.

Here’s a little wisdom from my late (and dearly-missed) father:

“If only we could be born with the wisdom that we collect in a lifetime – how different life would be!” – Robert Albert Elson.

The Spiritual Conspiracy

Stained glass dove

Love is the New Religion

On the surface of the world right now there is war and violence and things seem dark
But calmly and quietly, at the same time, something else is happening underground
An inner revolution is taking place and certain individuals are being called to a higher light
It is a silent revolution
From the inside out
From the ground up

It is time for me to reveal myself
I am an embedded agent of a secret, undercover
Clandestine
Global operation
A spiritual conspiracy
We have sleeper cells in every nation on the planet

You won’t see us on the T.V.
You won’t read about us in the newspaper
You won’t hear about us on the radio
We don’t seek any glory
We don’t wear any uniform
We come in all shapes and sizes
Colors and styles

Most of us work anonymously
We are quietly working behind the scenes in every country and culture of the world
Cities big and small, mountains and valleys, in farms and villages, tribes and remote islands

You could pass by one of us on the street and not even notice
We go undercover
We remain behind the scenes
It is of no concern to us who takes the final credit
But simply that the work gets done

Occasionally we spot each other in the street
We give a quiet nod and continue on our way so no one will notice
During the day many of us pretend we have normal jobs
But behind the false storefront at night is where the real work takes place

Some call us the “Conscious Army”
We are slowly creating a new world with the power of our minds and hearts
We follow, with passion and joy
Our orders from the Central Command
The Spiritual Intelligence Agency

We are dropping soft, secret love bombs when no one is looking
Poems
Hugs
Music
Photography
Movies
Kind words
Smiles
Meditation and prayer
Dance
Social activism
Websites
Blogs
Random acts of kindness

We each express ourselves in our own unique ways with our own unique gifts and talents

“Be the change you want to see in the world”
That is the motto that fills our hearts
We know it is the only way real transformation takes place
We know that quietly and humbly we have the power of all the oceans combined

Our work is slow and meticulous
Like the formation of mountains
It is not even visible at first glance
And yet with it entire tectonic plates shall be moved in the centuries to come

Love is the new religion of the 21st century

You don’t have to be a highly educated person
Or have any exceptional knowledge to understand it

It comes from the intelligence of the heart
Embedded in the timeless evolutionary pulse of all human beings

“Be the change you want to see in the world”
Nobody else can do it for you

We are now recruiting
Perhaps you will join us
Or already have …
All are welcome …
The door is open.

—Brian Piergrossi, from The Big Glow.

Going With the Flow of Life’s Seasons

Image © James Marvin Phelps, http://www.flickr.com/photos/mandj98/4292973893/

The nights are getting longer here in Australia, and the sun seems to hold a little less warmth each day. Mother Nature is going with the flow of the season. Winter is a time for reflection, for looking inside ourselves—a time of restoration and healing.

We are not grizzly or polar bears, and therefore we do not need to hibernate for the winter—although it is nice to snuggle up in bed when it is cold outside, or to stay in at night with a good book or a great movie! We do need to ‘rug up’ and change into winter clothing, putting on luxurious jumpers and pulling on those lovely boots that are usually too warm for sunny Queensland. Common sense prevails and we keep out of draughty places, close our windows and doors, and eat hearty, nutritious soups and stews.

Winter is a time of some rest, yes, but it is not a time for complacency. It is a great time to reflect and plan for the future. If you were a farmer you would not sow your seeds in winter or you would lose both your seed and your harvest. However, you would use this time of respite from the work of planting, tending and harvesting to order seed, maintain and repair equipment, and plan for the coming spring.

Actually, I am not just talking about the weather … the ‘seasons’ I am talking about can visit us during any earthly season. Winter always comes, often when you least expect it—sometimes in spring or summer, or sometimes just as you think that life is good and that you are about to reap a bumper harvest. Sometimes winter arrives just as you have invested time, money, and a whole lot more energy into a project, a business, or a relationship. A harsh winter can descend upon us at any timea winter of heartbreak, despair, loneliness, and disappointment. Guess what? Winter is always going to come to each of us, at some time or another. The question is, how do we prepare for that?

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Looking for love … in all the wrong places?

Image © Stefan van der Straeten, http://www.flickr.com/photos/stefanvds/3244861777/

Are you currently looking for love? You’re not alone! Everywhere around us, there are always so many people desiring to join with another in the elusive sacred bond of a loving relationship—a bond that fulfills their understanding of what it means to be two people in one loving couple full of emotional and physical affection. At the same time, others want to get out of hurtful or damaging relationships. Some folk will be full of unrequited love for somebody who has not idea that they exist, and would give anything to be with that person—or give anything to no longer feel the pain of loving the unavailable. Others feel guilty about deeds done in past or present relationships. Then there are those who are afraid to love, while others desire to return to a lover that they have lost.

Often these desires for love can become so strong that it causes a depression that gives a sense of life not being worthwhile. Others often feel that if only they had this perfect relationship, then the life they’d always imagined would finally start—maybe one where they contribute to the community, write a book, travel the world, or create durable work of art for humankind to remember. The truth is, you can’t always set the scene where everything works out at just the right time. We are often waiting for something to happen in life or the timing to be just right before we can do what we feel we ought to be doing. People waste a lot of time waiting for love when that time would be better spent creating the life that that they want, a life that—when that loving relationship comes along—will be enhanced.

It’s never a waste of time to hope for love, of course, but often we waste a lot of time hoping for one particular person’s love, rather than focusing time and energy to find a wonderful new partner. It’s easy to get stuck on one person, and natural to feel glum for a while when love is denied for whatever reason. However, it’s a waste of time to get stuck in that mood for several years—there comes a time to move on and live again.

One of the paradoxes of love is that when we desire love for love’s sake—when we are in love with the idea of being in love, or when we pin our romantic hopes and dreams on the never-never of a certain person reciprocating our love—then we are at our most unlovely. Who could love someone who waits passively for love to transform their life, or someone who mournfully waits for the object of their affection to notice them? If you’re unlucky in love, try banishing thoughts of love and focus instead on making your life as rich and rewarding as you possibly can. When your life is fulfilling on its own terms, your inner beauty and strength will shine, and you will have no problems attracting a lover—who might come from the most unlikely place—to enrich your life even further.

Gastric band hypnotherapy – Free Trial!

I’m so excited to announce that I’m now able to offer even more gastric band hypnotherapy options for my clients at Health and Harmony Clinic. If you want to lose weight but are tired of fad diets, scared of invasive surgery or have been denied the opportunity for lap band surgery, gastric band hypnotherapy could be the change you are looking for! This is a painless, non-invasive, and inexpensive program that can lead to long-lasting weight loss success! Clients report that it’s not like being on a diet at all, and the kilograms melt off.

Most people are already aware of gastric band surgery, where a small band (like a belt) is attached around the stomach, constricting the amount of food it can process. Unfortunately, it is a costly procedure that involves invasive surgery, requires post-operative recuperation, and carries significant risks – including gastric infection. Because of these risks, gastric band surgery is restricted to morbidly obese patients (45+ kilograms overweight). Many patients who are willing to undergo the procedure find that they can’t, because they are “too thin”.

Gastric band hypnotherapy offers all of the benefits of gastric band surgery with none of the potential complications. No invasive surgery is required. Patients do not have to go under a general anaesthetic (and pay for an expensive anaesthetist and surgeon!). There is no recovery time, and no wounds that risk becoming infected. And because it carries no risks, virtual gastric band hypnotherapy is available to everyone, no matter how large or small your weight loss goals. Whether you want to lose five kilograms or fifty, virtual gastric band hypnotherapy can work for you!

Gastric band hypnotherapy uses hypnotherapy to convince the body that a gastric band procedure has been performed. Clients report feeling fuller much faster, which leads to reduced appetite, reduced food consumption, and weight loss – all without painful surgery or bland dieting. Hypnotherapy has been scientifically studied for over 100 years and has been proven effective for therapeutic benefits. Hypnotherapy delves deep into the subconscious mind – the 90% of the brain that isn’t used in day-to-day thinking – in order to create new patterns of thought, break vicious cycles, and to set up clients for lifelong success. This is not a miracle cure, but with guided hypnotherapy, the included CD, and a small measure of conscious effort, clients can break the cycle of bad habits and self-defeating thoughts to take off the kilograms – and keep them off!

I have offered gastric band hypnotherapy before, but I’m particularly excited by the successful new program developed by respected UK hypnotherapist Sheila Granger. Unlike older programs, this new program is open to all clients, even those deemed “too thin” for previous virtual gastric band hypnotherapy or actual gastric band surgery. Sheila Granger ran a group trial on 21 adults – four men and 17 women – with varying lifestyles and weight loss goals. Each participant had a history of trying different diets and weight loss regimens with little effect. Between them, the group lost 190 inches from their waistlines and 90 kilograms in weight. The most successful participant lost 18.5 inches from their waistline! Granger’s program is so effective that Granger is in discussions with Britain’s National Health Service to offer it to the general public – a move that could save the NHS millions of pounds.

Check out some of the powerful testimonials from previous clients of Sheila’s below:

If you’re interested in this exciting new approach to weight loss, the good news is that I’m able to offer a free trial of Sheila’s virtual gastric band therapy for readers of my blog. Places are limited, so don’t hesitate to contact me on (07) 3392 0602 or info@healthandharmonyclinic.com.au today!

Don’t Hope – Decide

While waiting to pick up a friend at the airport in Portland, Oregon, I had one of those life-changing experiences that you hear other people talk about — the kind that sneaks up on you unexpectedly. This one occurred a mere two feet away from me.

Straining to locate my friend among the passengers deplaning through the jet way, I noticed a man coming toward me carrying two light bags. He stopped right next to me to greet his family.

First he motioned to his youngest son (maybe six years old) as he laid down his bags. They gave each other a long, loving hug. As they separated enough to look in each other’s face, I heard the father say, “It’s so good to see you, son. I missed you so much!” His son smiled somewhat shyly, averted his eyes and replied softly, “Me, too, Dad!”

Then the man stood up, gazed in the eyes of his oldest son (maybe nine or ten) and while cupping his son’s face in his hands said, “You’re already quite the young man. I love you very much, Zach!” They too hugged a most loving, tender hug.

While this was happening, a baby girl (perhaps one or one-and-a-half) was squirming excitedly in her mother’s arms, never once taking her little eyes off the wonderful sight of her returning father. The man said, “Hi, baby girl!” as he gently took the child from her mother. He quickly kissed her face all over and then held her close to his chest while rocking her from side to side. The little girl instantly relaxed and simply laid her head on his shoulder, motionless in pure contentment.

After several moments, he handed his daughter to his oldest son and declared, “I’ve saved the best for last!” and proceeded to give his wife the longest, most passionate kiss I ever remember seeing. He gazed into her eyes for several seconds and then silently mouthed. “I love you so much!” They stared at each other’s eyes, beaming big smiles at one another, while holding both hands.

For an instant they reminded me of newlyweds, but I knew by the age of their kids that they couldn’t possibly be. I puzzled about it for a moment then realized how totally engrossed I was in the wonderful display of unconditional love not more than an arm’s length away from me. I suddenly felt uncomfortable, as if I was invading something sacred, but was amazed to hear my own voice nervously ask, “Wow! How long have you two been married?

“Been together fourteen years total, married twelve of those.” he replied, without breaking his gaze from his lovely wife’s face. “Well then, how long have you been away?” I asked. The man finally turned and looked at me, still beaming his joyous smile. “Two whole days!”

Two days? I was stunned. By the intensity of the greeting, I had assumed he’d been gone for at least several weeks – if not months. I know my expression betrayed me.

I said almost offhandedly, hoping to end my intrusion with some semblance of grace (and to get back to searching for my friend), “I hope my marriage is still that passionate after twelve years!”

The man suddenly stopped smiling.

He looked me straight in the eye, and with forcefulness that burned right into my soul, he told me something that left me a different person. He told me, “Don’t hope, friend… decide!” Then he flashed me his wonderful smile again, shook my hand and said, “God bless!”

By: Michael D. Hargrove and Bottom Line Underwriters, Inc. Copyright 1997

April Fool’s Day Hoaxes

Happy April Fool’s Day everyone! Here are a few of my favourite hoaxes carried out on April Fool’s Day… enjoy!

Planetary Alignment Decreases Gravity 1976: The British astronomer Patrick Moore announced on BBC Radio 2 that at 9:47 AM a once-in-a-lifetime astronomical event was going to occur that listeners could experience in their very own homes. The planet Pluto would pass behind Jupiter, temporarily causing a gravitational alignment that would counteract and lessen the Earth’s own gravity. Moore told his listeners that if they jumped in the air at the exact moment that this planetary alignment occurred, they would experience a strange floating sensation. When 9:47 AM arrived, BBC2 began to receive hundreds of phone calls from listeners claiming to have felt the sensation. One woman even reported that she and her eleven friends had risen from their chairs and floated around the room.

UFO Lands in London 1989: On March 31, 1989 thousands of motorists driving on the highway outside London looked up in the air to see a glowing flying saucer descending on their city. Many of them pulled to the side of the road to watch the bizarre craft float through the air. The saucer finally landed in a field on the outskirts of London where local residents immediately called the police to warn them of an alien invasion. Soon the police arrived on the scene, and one brave officer approached the craft with his truncheon extended before him. When a door in the craft popped open, and a small, silver-suited figure emerged, the policeman ran in the opposite direction. The saucer turned out to be a hot-air balloon that had been specially built to look like a UFO by Richard Branson, the 36-year-old chairman of Virgin Records. The stunt combined his passion for ballooning with his love of pranks. His plan was to land the craft in London’s Hyde Park on April 1. Unfortunately, the wind blew him off course, and he was forced to land a day early in the wrong location.

Metric Time 1975: Australia’s This Day Tonight news program revealed that the country would soon be converting to “metric time.” Under the new system there would be 100 seconds to the minute, 100 minutes to the hour, and 20-hour days. Furthermore, seconds would become millidays, minutes become centidays, and hours become decidays. The report included an interview with Deputy Premier Des Corcoran who praised the new time system. The Adelaide townhall was even shown sporting a new 10-hour metric clock face. The thumbnail (found at TelevisionAU.com) shows TDT Adelaide reporter Nigel Starck posing with a smaller metric clock. TDT received numerous calls from viewers who fell for the hoax. One frustrated viewer wanted to know how he could convert his newly purchased digital clock to metric time.

The Sydney Iceberg 1978: A barge appeared in Sydney Harbor towing a giant iceberg. Sydneysiders were expecting it. Dick Smith, a local adventurer and millionaire businessman (owner of Dick Smith’s Foods), had been loudly promoting his scheme to tow an iceberg from Antarctica for quite some time. Now he had apparently succeeded. He said that he was going to carve the berg into small ice cubes, which he would sell to the public for ten cents each. These well-traveled cubes, fresh from the pure waters of Antarctica, were promised to improve the flavor of any drink they cooled. Slowly the iceberg made its way into the harbor. Local radio stations provided excited blow-by-blow coverage of the scene. Only when the berg was well into the harbor was its secret revealed. It started to rain, and the firefighting foam and shaving cream that the berg was really made of washed away, uncovering the white plastic sheets beneath.

I hope you enjoyed these! I found these on the website ‘Top 100 April Fool’s Day Hoaxes Of All Time’ http://www.museumofhoaxes.com/hoax/aprilfool/

Visit the website and tell me your favourites!

Relationship Advice

What Would You Do?

Julie and Mark had been together ‘forever’. They started dating, and soon enough fell completely in love with each other. Ready to take the next step, they moved in together, they wanted to make sure they didn’t overwhelm themselves, or put too much pressure on their relationship, so they decided to move in to a share house. They grew closer together and and their relationship grew stronger, but Julie always had an underlying insecurity. When they were together, everything was perfect, but when they were apart, nothing Julie did could get rid of  a feeling, or hidden fear she had that she couldn’t quite put her finger on.  She could never figure out exactly what she was so insecure about, she was usually so confident.

Time passed, and they grew closer as they talked about the future, living on their own, marriage, children – gave Julie faith that they would last and she began to ignore her insecurities.

The time came when they decided they wanted to take the next step and live together in their own house. Living in London, it was difficult to find the right place for them, and house hunting took a while. They enjoyed looking for houses together, and Julie was excited about the future until one day, he left. With no explanation, Mark broke up with Julie, moved out of the share house, and was gone. Julie was left feeling confused, betrayed, and it took over a year until she began to move on.

Eventually the bad days became fewer, and the good days became brighter until one day, almost a year and a half after Mark’s heartbreaking decision, she met Paul.

Julie was happy with Paul, it took longer to open her heart to Paul, but she did, and they had a wonderful relationship, fun and loving. Julie was surprised at how she felt, she thought her insecurities would be even stronger now that she had been heartbroken, but she had none. She trusted Paul completely, but no matter how close she grew to him, she couldn’t get rid of the sinking feeling that Mark was her soul-mate, and she had lost him.

Just as Julie and Paul’s relationship was beginning to blossom and grow serious, Mark found Julie and begged for her to forgive him. Truly believing they were destined to be together, Julie broke up with Paul, accepted Mark’s apologies and took him back.

Now, Julie is with Mark, and while their relationship is magical when they’re together, when they’re apart, Julie’s old insecurities instantly return and she’s left feeling just as confused as before.

What would you have done?

Did Julie make a mistake?

What should she do now?

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